I am single and actively dating. Or rather, was actively dating. I have currently decided to take a break.

It’s not dating I complain about, but the way we go about finding a date. I hate online dating. I think it has ruined how we see each other. I am swiping left or right on people simply based on if we think they LOOK attractive. I get that there needs to be a physical attraction, but that can trigger after getting to know someone. I have matched with guys that I thought we just so gorgeous and as soon as I am given time to talk to them I realize that they are just…not attractive anymore.

I have done the opposite as well. I have talked to a guy, just enjoying his company and getting to know him and realize that I am attracted to him because of the person he is, not just what he looks like. I feel like attraction can grow. Maybe that is just me.

It seems to also encourage disrespect because you start talking to someone from behind a computer and it adds a weird sense of ballsy that makes you say things you would never say in real life, in person.

Let’s not even get up to the hook-up culture. Every time I think I have found a decent guy I am suddenly being propositioned. I want to connect with someone I could spend my life with, not someone I just hop in bed with. I realize this is a “me” problem. Not everyone wants to commit to long term relationships. It’s just frustrating to be a woman in her late 30’s still trying to find a man that wants to settle. I thought the older I got the more men I would find that want to settle. Instead I keep finding these men that continue to do what they have always done. Hit it and quit it. lol Sorry.

So…dating. Dating is what I complain about the most. It’s annoying and I don’t want to do it anymore. I hope the aliens that are visiting earth have some nice male aliens that are looking for cute earth girls. I will be the first in line for a boyfriend from another planet.